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Meg is 23

There are a few followers of this blog who I suspect only really come and visit for news of my daughter, Meg.

As it's her 23rd birthday today, perhaps it's time for a wee update on her life.

I think quite early on in the pandemic, watching Meg I came to realise the truth of the notion that we might all be in the same storm, but we're all having a different experience.

This time last year, she was trying to come to terms with finishing her time at The Usual Place, where she'd been training for the previous 3½ years, and was gearing up to starting her gluten-free baking business, Megalicious.

The whole country went into Lockdown 5 days before the official launch.

Even though it took until October before Meg was officially put into a high-risk category (a report was released at that time showing people Down's Syndrome are 10 times more likely to die if they contract Covid-19), we had strong suspicions she would be particularly vulnerable if she got it, so went into shielding mode from the start, and have been in it ever since.

While some people have talked about the 2nd or 3rd Lockdown, we have just had a continual one since March last year.

In some ways, Meg has a stronger immunity than most against the mental health impact of the situation, because she very much lives in the present – something Zen Masters train for decades to be able to achieve.

So she does not spend her time obsessing about the past and what she might have done differently, nor does she often get anxious about the future. For the most part, if the now is OK, then she's OK.

However, she is an extraordinarily social person. She loves people; she loves being with people; she loves making other people feel special.

The eventual plan of Meg having her own cafe – whether pop-up, mobile, or bricks & mortar – is one which would suit her personality down to the ground.

But not being able to even meet with friends for a coffee, or hug her siblings, nephews and niece, has had its impact.

A couple of days ago she had her first vaccine. She was fine while she had it, then broke down in tears on the walk home, experiencing one of those "reality attacks" that have become all too common for most of us.

Maggie has an appointment for her first vaccine, and while I haven't heard yet, I have been told that because of my haemochromatosis, I have been nudged up the priority list.

It will then be about 12 weeks before the 2nd vaccine, and a further 21 days to be sure it will have maximum effect.

So it could easily still be the end of June before we are able to take our first tentative steps back into the world of socialising and meeting up for coffees and hot chocolates with friends and family.

And once we have a good sense of the lay of the land, then we can start looking to launch Megalicious, and hopefully start moving towards a brighter future.

Meanwhile, she was desperate to get her hair dyed by her birthday.

For those who remember the shoot we did last year where she appeared on the front of Dumfries & Galloway Life magazine, she had not long dyed her hair a beautiful, vivid red in preparation for the launch of her business.

Most of it had grown out, although the ends still had some faded red to them, so yesterday Maggie helped her re-dye her hair.

Today our little Valentine's baby turns 23.

Hair Dye: before and after

7 comments

Z said...

The vibrant colour really suits you, Meg. Happy birthday!
Kim, if you might think about mail order for Meg’s business, I’m sure friends would support it.

Ponita in Real Life said...

A Very Happy Birthday to Meg! The red hair is so lovely on her!

A lot of bakeries and restaurants over here in Canada have been doing curbside contactless pickup so that might also be something to consider.

I am so glad she has had her first vaccine, and that you and Maggie will be protected as well. Just please remember that the vaccine does not impart 100% immunity, so precautions like wearing a mask, social distancing and hand sanitizing will still be necessary. Scientists are unsure if someone who is vaccinated can still spread the virus. Too much is just not known about this disease. In the meantime, I am so glad you are all safe.

Kim Ayres said...

Z - thank you:)
At this stage, mail order seems unlikely. We need to work out how to package and present them at producers markets first. Putting them in the post and hoping they survive the journey are still edible at the other end feels like a big unknown. Small steps first, though I appreciate the thought :)

Ponita - thank you :)
There are places locally that have said they would act as a pick-up place if needed.
Part of the problem at the moment is the business hinges on access to other members of the family to be able to be more hands-on in their help, which they can't be until everyone has been vaccinated.
In the meantime, we won't be taking any risks before everyone in the house has had both vaccines :)

savannah said...

It seems almost impossible that Meg is already 23!! Have we been a blog family that long? It's as if she was just a kid yesterday. Happy Birthday, Meg! Salah and I wish you all safe and peaceful days ahead. We get our 2nd vaccine on 20 FEB. we will continue "elder lockdown" until Dr. Fauci says it isn't necessary! Much love to you all! xoxo

Kim Ayres said...

Savannah - I first mentioned Meg being a Valentine's child on this blog back in Feb 2006. At that point she was 8 years old.
And given it's said you the Internet ages in Doggy Years (7 times that of humans), we've been blogging family for about a century now :)

neena maiya (guyana gyal) said...

The way you describe Meg always pulls at my heartstrings. It is so beautiful, Kim. This is one of my favourite posts about her.

Please tell her hello from me, I think she's gorgeous, smart and simply adorable.

I don't know why June is stuck in my head, that things will get better by then. I do hope so.

Kim Ayres said...

Neena - thank you for your warm words!
Even if we are able to move more freely in June, I think after 15 months of social isolation, it's going to take some time to readjust to moving in society.

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