Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Goodbye Stella

Stella started commenting on my blog way back in late 2005, barely 3 months after I'd started it, and she was always warm, kind and encouraging with her words.

I discovered one of the things we had in common was we both had daughters with Down's Syndrome, but although it sort of acted as a way of introduction, it didn't define our relationship. She began a blog of her own, although it only lasted a few months. She felt guilty at not keeping it going, but was happier commenting on other people's sites rather than writing about her own life.

We connected on Facebook several years back, and periodically I would see her posting photos of her family, but more than anything we played a wee game called Lexulous - a word game very similar to Scrabble.

Pretty much every day then, for the past few years, we've made our moves and left little comments in the chat box. Periodically, though, there would be gaps. She was battling with cancer and there would be times she would disappear for treatment.

I knew it was ongoing, but I hadn't realised things were as advanced as they were. She took her last move a few days ago. Today I saw her son had posted on Facebook that Stella had passed away in her sleep early this morning.

Stella was a lovely woman and I was privileged to know her in that strange way of knowing people online, yet never having met in person.

My heart aches at her passing, and for her family who loved her dearly.

Goodbye Stella.

11 comments:

debra said...

Fly high, Stella. Love and light to those who knew and loved her.

angryparsnip said...

What a lovey post about your friend.
A friend is a friend.

cheers, parsnip

Anonymous said...

Hi I too have been playing Lexi with Stella, for many years, before her cancer . She has remained a constant in my daily life. Like you a quick little chat and a move on the board, I worried when she was not playing, as I knew she was fighting a hard battle, and recently confided that the fight was ending. I always wish for more time for her, but I know she was suffering so.may she rest in peace.Sharon Fitz-James , Canada

maurcheen said...

Well said. She will be remembered by many I'm sure. :¬)

Hindsfeet said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, Kim.....friends like that are so dear.....the "in spirit" kind....sometimes more than the "in person" kind.....

I feel your ache deeply, I am *so* sorry for your loss....

Liz

Pat said...

God bless Stella and may she rest in peace.
I think it is a wonderful thing that almost to the end one can communicate and play games thanks to the internet. I think we sometimes we forget that.

allencapoferri said...

That's sweet, sad and a very nice way of remembering a dear friend.

Kim Ayres said...

Thanks for all your comments

hope said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Isn't it remarkable how close we all get with just a computer screen and a few thousand miles between us?

Tara Hintz said...

my heart has paused.

I watched Stella through her interactions with you.

I've missed you my friend.

Ar dheis Dé go raibh a anam

May She Rest In Peace

starrlife said...

So touched are we by those who travel similar paths, cross our lives and then move on... I totally appreciate this post. My condolences...