tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post3257949534843772037..comments2024-01-11T18:39:50.665+00:00Comments on Painting With Shadows: Gender ConfusionKim Ayreshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-39090927304280581282022-06-27T21:38:58.893+01:002022-06-27T21:38:58.893+01:00Neena - for many years now, I've realised (and...Neena - for many years now, I've realised (and mostly managed to remember) that if I'm not doing anything to actively harm someone else, then any problem they have with me is their problem rather than mine - unless they decided to make it my problem.<br />I am aware though, of my privilege of being a white male in a country that is dominated by white males. <br />I do not live the experience of ethnic minorities or females (or LGBTQ etc).<br />As a child I spent a large chunk of my upbringing in Wales, where I was regularly bullied for being English. This has given me a great deal of empathy for those on the receiving end of abuse for being something they have no control over. <br />However, I accept and understand that my day to day living is not one where I live under threat, so I am more privileged to be able to dismiss other people's opinions of me.Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-24383402074378430692022-06-27T21:16:18.081+01:002022-06-27T21:16:18.081+01:00"...the problem is theirs..." is a good ..."...the problem is theirs..." is a good way to handle many who bring 'stuff' with them!neena maiya (guyana gyal)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01358313821005038118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-46551686080776263382022-06-19T20:47:11.760+01:002022-06-19T20:47:11.760+01:00Neena - when I was younger I was always bothered b...Neena - when I was younger I was always bothered by people's reactions. However, after a lifetime of dealing with it, I realise the problem is theirs, not mine, so am more likely to be amused. :)<br />Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-69222046210887327432022-06-19T17:28:52.151+01:002022-06-19T17:28:52.151+01:00To be honest, I've known you so long, I don...To be honest, I've known you so long, I don't even think that Kim is also a female name.<br /><br />As for gender...a person is, for me, their present self, not who they used to be. <br /><br />I take it you're amused by people's reaction, Kim? :-)neena maiya (guyana gyal)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01358313821005038118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-2665858003375830712022-06-19T10:40:23.849+01:002022-06-19T10:40:23.849+01:00Savanah - :)Savanah - :)Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-48322136335181075082022-06-19T00:36:49.204+01:002022-06-19T00:36:49.204+01:00Good Lord! *in my best Captain hastings voice* xo...Good Lord! *in my best Captain hastings voice* xoxo savannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04310843901371718758noreply@blogger.com