tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post2676333053706683177..comments2024-01-11T18:39:50.665+00:00Comments on Painting With Shadows: Trying to avoid being the biggest bastard parent of all timeKim Ayreshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-54261852294179980452011-07-30T19:29:46.375+01:002011-07-30T19:29:46.375+01:00Thank you Mike :)Thank you Mike :)Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-9656065007908251172011-07-30T19:27:11.366+01:002011-07-30T19:27:11.366+01:00I think you handled that brilliantly!!I think you handled that brilliantly!!JustAMikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02304812477710391158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-53187562019002442152011-07-29T21:35:50.521+01:002011-07-29T21:35:50.521+01:00Ruthie - glad you managed to get it all worked out...Ruthie - glad you managed to get it all worked out in the end!<br /><br />Hope the Arts Trail goes well for you this weekend :)Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-47275345794823462022011-07-29T20:55:31.080+01:002011-07-29T20:55:31.080+01:00Kim, mission accomplished thanks to a hint or two ...Kim, mission accomplished thanks to a hint or two from yourself we have 1 fully reimbursed parent & one very happy & now totally hooked to music festivals teenager. Hope your festival goers had fun too. survived. Here's to next year. Hope you managed to get some great shots of the horned wickerman.Ruthie Reddenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09544345949078281235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-56299604956431108802011-07-17T21:10:16.267+01:002011-07-17T21:10:16.267+01:00It was last weekend, Mary, but yes they did have t...It was last weekend, Mary, but yes they did have to put up with some serious rain :)Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-47899754806478698842011-07-17T20:11:42.250+01:002011-07-17T20:11:42.250+01:00Eek -- they were out there in that torrential rain...Eek -- they were out there in that torrential rain last night? <br /><br />Well done, weathering all the angst of wondering if you were going to be reimbursed. We've had similar issues with our girls, and they almost always pay us back. But I can assure you that I HAVE been the biggest bastard parent, so you couldn't have claimed that distinction. ;o)Mary Witzlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06458299046574564155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-76708347477837058872011-07-13T14:39:04.641+01:002011-07-13T14:39:04.641+01:00Mapstew - it's true about the need to instil i...Mapstew - it's true about the need to instil in them a sense of being independent with money, especially when the parents have none. <br /><br />The reason he started his cakes business in the first place was because he wanted to go skiing with the school and we told him we couldn't afford it so he'd have to pay. And in the end he was able to put £350 towards it.<br /><br />We were dead impressed. He makes more money than I do and he's only 16...<br /><br />Z - it does feel a bit like getting a tax rebate - somehow disconnected with payments made many months ago :)<br /><br />Poppy - well the weather wasn't that kind to them, and it really wasn't kind to the tent, however, they did indeed have a fab time :)<br /><br />Adila - in this house someone is always saying cake ;)<br /><br />Jacqui - so am I :)<br /><br />Sandy - you're a loyal customer - perhaps you should ask him to create a loyalty card so when you've bought 10 you automatically get one free :)<br /><br />Erika - not as nervous as I was... :)<br /><br />Carole - you're right, that opportunity is never far away :)<br /><br />Eryl - as you're a philosopher and have a son, I take it you've had similar things with Bob?<br /><br />Sharon - kids are too good at sniffing out when we're bluffing :)<br /><br />Theanne & Baron - when I was a kid I had no real boundaries. My parents were of a generation where they felt they'd been far too strictly bound by theirs, so thought the thing to do was give their kids free rein. Unfortunately I don't believe that worked particularly well either. So I've tried to gve my kids firm boundaries, but with flexibility and the opportunities to expand or change the boundaries if they can justify itKim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-80736447852145338052011-07-12T19:49:59.103+01:002011-07-12T19:49:59.103+01:00I wish I'd had your wisdom when my son was a t...I wish I'd had your wisdom when my son was a teen...Rogan has learned something so valuable. Teens really want discipline and consistency(or so my son told me). So happy days to you and Rogan! Look forward to hearing about "the all paid for adventure."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-57120984632802386392011-07-12T05:26:55.988+01:002011-07-12T05:26:55.988+01:00I know I've ducked out of similar ultimatums w...I know I've ducked out of similar ultimatums with my kids in the past - the bit of me that loves them too much nags away saying I should always do everything I can to make them happy. But I know that in the long run, your way is better - both for you and your kids, so I admire your stand and I'm so pleased it worked out. Your son is a credit to you.Sharon Longworthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18120227975152565893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-50318553969806177172011-07-11T21:49:48.397+01:002011-07-11T21:49:48.397+01:00Great story, well done both of you. Of course, I w...Great story, well done both of you. Of course, I would expect nothing less from a philosopher and his son!Erylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06008344023000459577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-9789505455419511462011-07-11T03:00:28.747+01:002011-07-11T03:00:28.747+01:00Nice to know you avoided being considered a bad pa...Nice to know you avoided being considered a bad parent. Knowing kids, there is a chance you'll get another opportunity. Play it as well as you did this one and you'll come out smelling like a rose.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828426520214270655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-79883618925747948342011-07-11T00:07:27.682+01:002011-07-11T00:07:27.682+01:00I'm so relieved the story had a happy ending. ...I'm so relieved the story had a happy ending. I was nervous for the both of you :)erikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03048369118376287016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-71063024476691578542011-07-10T21:54:46.403+01:002011-07-10T21:54:46.403+01:00His cakes were very tasty (I ate 2). Good to hear ...His cakes were very tasty (I ate 2). Good to hear they were going to a good cause. Hope to get a small report on how Blondie were the next time I bump into him - mind you,1978 was a long time ago, he's probably looked at his program and said, "Who?".Sandy's witteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05009803939431014995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-20753701841571708332011-07-10T13:17:07.021+01:002011-07-10T13:17:07.021+01:00Tough call to make. So glad it didn't go down ...Tough call to make. So glad it didn't go down to the wire!Brindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17365565694163030828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1874257949923733732011-07-10T13:09:27.313+01:002011-07-10T13:09:27.313+01:00Did someone say 'cake'?
:-PDid someone say 'cake'? <br />:-PAAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09877649219630910144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-77303689809734759792011-07-09T22:48:16.429+01:002011-07-09T22:48:16.429+01:00Kids hey...!!!
Sometimes you just have to put you...Kids hey...!!!<br /><br />Sometimes you just have to put your foot down and keep it down.<br /><br />Good on Rogan for being so mature and finding a solution to pay for his ticket.<br /><br />Hope Rogan and his sister have a fab time... and that the weather is kind to them (and the tent..!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-36803694593869846302011-07-09T08:42:00.506+01:002011-07-09T08:42:00.506+01:00You must have rather wished, for a while, that you...You must have rather wished, for a while, that you had not made such a stand earlier. Once the threat has been made, you have to be prepared to carry it through. Good for Rogan for stepping up and taking responsibility. And well played you, too!<br /><br />Furthermore, this long time after you paid the bill, it felt like a bonus to get cash back, I expect.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-88504715533852408742011-07-09T02:50:43.424+01:002011-07-09T02:50:43.424+01:00Thankfully I never have that problem, as my (one &...Thankfully I never have that problem, as my (one & only) credit card is always maxed out!<br /><br />I've brought my kids up to buy 'stuff' when they have the money for such, and yes, it works. They are very independant money wise (cos their parents have none!), but we have always told them we will 'bail them out' of serious situations if we can (as I'm sure you would do) when they cannot do so themselves, for we are parents for life, and even when they are adults, our kids will always be our babies.<br /><br />Have a lovely weekend sir, and try not to worry too much 'bout the kids at the festival (as I DID last year!) :¬)mapstewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07159592046833798019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-33491589173280825492011-07-09T00:04:44.207+01:002011-07-09T00:04:44.207+01:00Library Girl - it's true - I never understood ...Library Girl - it's true - I never understood that phrase as a kid. You need to be a parent before you do, I think :)<br /><br />Hope - now he has his money, and has paid for everything, he's fine about it :)<br /><br />Snoble24 - for all those reasons, I knew it was the right thing to do, but even as a parent, we don't always want to have to inflict discipline on our kids. We desperately hope they will work it out for themselves, so often leave it until the very last minute before we have to come down hard<br /><br />Nan - thank you :)<br /><br />Jayne - so am I :)<br /><br />Rachel - thank you :)<br /><br />Ruthie - only 2 weeks - hope your son gets his money sorted in time! We're not camping over, but Rogan and I will be going along to the Wickerman. I'm currently taking photos of the different stages of Trevor Leat & Alex Rigg's sculpture taking shape, so I'll need to get shots of it going up in flames tooKim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-35977294767115557502011-07-08T22:23:19.751+01:002011-07-08T22:23:19.751+01:00The joy & pains of parenthood, this so brings ...The joy & pains of parenthood, this so brings back memories from my girls teen years, and now child number three is at the very same stage and i have a similar problem with his payback for his wickerman ticket. I am trying to avoid the very same feelings ;-) Hope they both have an amazing 1st big festival adventure.Ruthie Reddenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09544345949078281235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-4664690106972143272011-07-08T17:00:03.804+01:002011-07-08T17:00:03.804+01:00Good work both men!
xGood work both men!<br />xRachel Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11803852725693518924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-90106568008440590682011-07-08T08:13:43.072+01:002011-07-08T08:13:43.072+01:00Well done to both of you :-) There's always th...Well done to both of you :-) There's always the possibility it was a psychological battle - you for not wanting to resort to the bastard parent of all time & Rosh for maybe thinking he could get away with owing you the outstanding amount - I'm really pleased it never came to a 'showdown' :-)Jaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06546956519928584352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-70567623019602946312011-07-08T03:18:24.975+01:002011-07-08T03:18:24.975+01:00Hoo-ray!!! Parents everywhere are proud of you and...Hoo-ray!!! Parents everywhere are proud of you and your son!Nanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375461078977866753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-53728476139982974392011-07-08T02:43:21.519+01:002011-07-08T02:43:21.519+01:00im glad you did that. it would be hard and hed thi...im glad you did that. it would be hard and hed think of you as a bastard dad but in the end you wouldnt be. you would be the parent trying to get your kid to pay there own bills and take care of things themselves. if you didnt do that he might end up being one of those people who always bums money from friends and family and never pays back and eventualy gets suied and then still not pay them and get arrested for atempt of court.belive me theres many of them and most of them got that way by there parents not teaching them they dont get everything for nothing.there parents not teaching them to pay there own bills and make money they can and take care of themselvs and be responsible. you telling him that you would and if you ended up haveing to would of been great parenting becuase it teach them how to be responsible adults and that is the best leson you can give themsnoble24https://www.blogger.com/profile/13111250049846390667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-23934297862454674472011-07-07T23:04:43.387+01:002011-07-07T23:04:43.387+01:00Thank heaven there are still adults in the world! ...Thank heaven there are still adults in the world! Good for you!<br /><br />How does anyone learn if there isn't a line drawn in the sand...a line which is enforced?<br /><br />He may not thank you now, but he won't forget. Standing ovation!hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03306622656461205674noreply@blogger.com