tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post115609116185925304..comments2024-01-11T18:39:50.665+00:00Comments on Painting With Shadows: When my niece came to stayKim Ayreshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156946648671989972006-08-30T15:04:00.000+01:002006-08-30T15:04:00.000+01:00Atilla - I can completely understand - the desire ...Atilla - I can completely understand - the desire to belong, to feel that we are not alone is incredibly powerful.Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156943200437298052006-08-30T14:06:00.000+01:002006-08-30T14:06:00.000+01:00As an adoptee, I never experienced that, and it wa...As an adoptee, I never experienced that, and it was something I sorely missed growing up. I was sure that there was someone out there who looked like me---someone who had the same nose and the same smile.<BR/><BR/>When I finally met my birthmother, I was kind of disappointed in that area. She had black hair and eyes (my hair is red and eyes are green), she was petite, while I'm amazonian.<BR/><BR/>My bio aunt brought a book of photos to our first meeting to show me what my mom looked like as a child, and of various ancestors. Amongst them was a picture of someone's feet. The toes were long and kind of "woven" together (left toes and right).<BR/><BR/>I said, "OMG, where did you get a picture of MY feet?" They were my mom's!<BR/><BR/>I cannot begin to tell you what a thrill that was for me! ;-)Attila the Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02158308703617226652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156351504847106412006-08-23T17:45:00.000+01:002006-08-23T17:45:00.000+01:00Jupiter's Girl - of course when our children act l...<B>Jupiter's Girl</B> - of course when our children act like us we're proud of them... unless they act as stupidly as we did when we were their age.<BR/><BR/><B>FMC</B> - your mutual love and respect for each other dominates much of your blog...Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156339964456925552006-08-23T14:32:00.000+01:002006-08-23T14:32:00.000+01:00Do I even need to mention my mother?Do I even need to mention my mother?fatmammycathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12307960277363243051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156335502044305502006-08-23T13:18:00.000+01:002006-08-23T13:18:00.000+01:00I have had a thing with my Mother, disliking some ...I have had a thing with my Mother, disliking some of her idiosyncrasies, all of my life. My sisters (5 of them) made me feel very crabby because they didn't see what I did. Well, last year during the evacuation of our area for weeks, they all stayed together under one roof - and all of them validated my observances of things that annoy one about her. This year, we all met up for a family get-away and I drove my Mom. I noticed that I have similar idiosyncrasies. I have to make peace with that. My sisters started to talk about my Mother and I couldn't chime in without telling on myself too. I will turn into my own version of Virginia, I am sure of it. I like her a lot better these days.Jupiter's Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05071415384252770418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156319468921665572006-08-23T08:51:00.000+01:002006-08-23T08:51:00.000+01:00Nikki - thanks :)Ms Molly - welcome to my rambling...<B>Nikki</B> - thanks :)<BR/><BR/><B>Ms Molly</B> - welcome to my ramblings! That's a lovely thought - thank you for talking the time to comment :)Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156287430678148512006-08-22T23:57:00.000+01:002006-08-22T23:57:00.000+01:00Hi Kim,Interesting thought process. I imagine your...Hi Kim,<BR/><BR/>Interesting thought process. I imagine your nieces perspective would be very different if she could articulate as you do. I think it was a compliment to you regardless of your brothers like-ness to you in that she was expressing comfort with you ( a near stranger) but connecting with someone she obviously adored ( her dad).... how nice.<BR/><BR/>Nice to meet you,<BR/><BR/>Ms. MollyRebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13635673567036134844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156279062207390512006-08-22T21:37:00.000+01:002006-08-22T21:37:00.000+01:00Great food for thought Kim.ThanksGreat food for thought Kim.<BR/><BR/>ThanksNikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09959561240011073465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156239521779336572006-08-22T10:38:00.000+01:002006-08-22T10:38:00.000+01:00I don't ever remember saying I disliked philosophy...I don't ever remember saying I disliked philosophy - I love it. In fact I'm going to be teaching an Adult Evening Class of it next month (blog entry to follow sometime soon).<BR/><BR/>It's sport I hate with a passion.Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156238104231852542006-08-22T10:15:00.000+01:002006-08-22T10:15:00.000+01:00Hmmm. the old pre stroke self determination conund...Hmmm. the old pre stroke self determination conundrum. You know for someone who allegedly disliked his philosophy course with a passion, a lot of it seems to have rubbed off on you.<BR/>osmosis?Dr Maroonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00639939963726199699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156237412314841022006-08-22T10:03:00.000+01:002006-08-22T10:03:00.000+01:00Pendullum - thank you :)BStrong - I guess whether ...<B>Pendullum</B> - thank you :)<BR/><BR/><B>BStrong</B> - I guess whether we find comfort or disturbance depends largely on the relationship.<BR/><BR/><B>Kate</B> - it's one that periodically returns to me. I blogged once before about how most men will wonder if they are turning into their father at some point.<BR/><BR/><B>SafeTinspector</B> - I've often wondered if I was to ever meet myself whether I would have a new best buddy or I'd find him intensely irritating.<BR/><BR/>My brother is currently living with my sister until he finds himself a new flat to move into. I think my kids would be traumatised going to stay with them in the rather overcrowded living conditions.<BR/><BR/>I'm not into bread pudding at all, although my wife is. No, on this occassion it was purely ice-creamKim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156214834984993762006-08-22T03:47:00.000+01:002006-08-22T03:47:00.000+01:00Was your pudding the soggy-bread type Heather's En...Was your pudding the soggy-bread type Heather's English gramma makes?SafeTinspectorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10270872012571601820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156214806693474392006-08-22T03:46:00.001+01:002006-08-22T03:46:00.001+01:00So, are you sending your kids to stay with your br...So, are you sending your kids to stay with your brother to see if they have similar experiences?SafeTinspectorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10270872012571601820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156214763167044022006-08-22T03:46:00.000+01:002006-08-22T03:46:00.000+01:00Though I am not at all close to my father, who lef...Though I am not at all close to my father, who left my mother AND the state when I was 3 months old, my voice is so similar to his that should I ever call one of my relatives on that side of the family they assume I am Ed Whited, not Joe Whited.<BR/><BR/>Secondarily, my mother gave a girl up for adoption four years before I was born. The woman tracked her down some years ago. <BR/>Oddly enough, she plays piano, enjoys science fiction and engages in bizarre humor. <BR/>Even more strangely, we both took an instant dislike towards one another. <BR/><BR/>Funny old world eh?SafeTinspectorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10270872012571601820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156181324134360792006-08-21T18:28:00.000+01:002006-08-21T18:28:00.000+01:00That was a great post! Your point about how we 'ge...That was a great post! Your point about how we 'get' our thought processes is an interesting one, it's something I have pondered in the past.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07027028952998373863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156175743174423992006-08-21T16:55:00.000+01:002006-08-21T16:55:00.000+01:00Nice post Kim. My mother tells me many times that...Nice post Kim. My mother tells me many times that I say thigs and have facial expresions like my father once did. I find comfort in that fact because I was so young, just 14, when my dad past away.<BR/><BR/>Cheers,<BR/>BBStronghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15795381642029132764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1156175346371766652006-08-21T16:49:00.000+01:002006-08-21T16:49:00.000+01:00That was a great post...It has given me a great de...That was a great post...<BR/>It has given me a great deal to think of...<BR/>And glad that your neice kept you in check! ; )Pendullumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11833881250780345533noreply@blogger.com