tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post114227803134319197..comments2024-01-11T18:39:50.665+00:00Comments on Painting With Shadows: Rewarded for what, exactly?Kim Ayreshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142979560460566282006-03-21T22:19:00.000+00:002006-03-21T22:19:00.000+00:00Close call, Anti-Barney. I'll try and be more care...Close call, Anti-Barney. I'll try and be more careful in future!Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142976949909195972006-03-21T21:35:00.000+00:002006-03-21T21:35:00.000+00:00Damn you Kim,you nearly had me thinking positively...Damn you Kim,you nearly had me thinking positively there for a minute.the anti-barneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10963754274280166100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142670455635753802006-03-18T08:27:00.000+00:002006-03-18T08:27:00.000+00:00A victim of "tough love", clearly.A victim of "tough love", clearly.Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142627682686615082006-03-17T20:34:00.001+00:002006-03-17T20:34:00.001+00:00My word verification thing last time was "iejag."M...My word verification thing last time was "iejag."<BR/><BR/>Maybe Blogger is trying to say something about Microsoft.Gyrobohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03256636954723983135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142627644997635592006-03-17T20:34:00.000+00:002006-03-17T20:34:00.000+00:00I remember when I hit post #100. I had just lost e...I remember when I hit post #100. I had just lost electricity in the middle of January, and was writing about how much I hated my electric company.<BR/><BR/>I still do, even though they taught me the power of self-reliance.Gyrobohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03256636954723983135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142611319438469262006-03-17T16:01:00.000+00:002006-03-17T16:01:00.000+00:00That's a wonderful quote, Sven. Thanks for sharing...That's a wonderful quote, Sven. Thanks for sharing itKim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142610095428623672006-03-17T15:41:00.000+00:002006-03-17T15:41:00.000+00:00Wonderful post. Thanks for letting us in and remin...Wonderful post. Thanks for letting us in and reminding us of the eternal stuggle of life. Reading your post made me think of a quote I saw a while back from the Kurt Vonnegut Jr. It goes like this:<BR/><BR/><I>My uncle Alex Vonnegut, a Harvard-educated life insurance salesman, taught me something very important. He said that when things were really going well we should be sure to NOTICE it. He was talking about simple occasions, not great victories: maybe drinking lemonade on a hot afternoon in the shade, or smelling the aroma of a nearby bakery; or fishing, and not caring if we catch anything or not, or hearing somebody all alone playing a piano really well in the house next door. Uncle Alex urged me to say this out loud during such epiphanies: "If this isn't nice, what is?"<BR/>--Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.</I><BR/><BR/>That is the way I felt about your post.Svenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04106330081401871456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142596255027111262006-03-17T11:50:00.000+00:002006-03-17T11:50:00.000+00:00I think it becomes more sophisticated over time. A...I think it becomes more sophisticated over time. As you come to terms with, or deal with the more obvious problems, so the more subtle ones can come to light. The mind can be an incredibly devious blighter for fooling ourselves.Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142570750720356792006-03-17T04:45:00.000+00:002006-03-17T04:45:00.000+00:00Ho, Kim!Happy 100. Do you ever feel that as you ge...Ho, Kim!<BR/>Happy 100. <BR/>Do you ever feel that as you get older the flavor of the depression and self-pity changes?<BR/>Its like the recipe is changing over time.<BR/>If so, does this change the ability to plan the goal?SafeTinspectorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10270872012571601820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142528762752395152006-03-16T17:06:00.000+00:002006-03-16T17:06:00.000+00:00Lord Lessismore - I've been aware of the need to s...<B>Lord Lessismore</B> - I've been aware of the need to set goals and be positive for some time, although moving it from theory into practice has been somewhat lacking. The real revelation with this, however, is that I've effectively been rewarding myself for doing badly, and I hadn't realised that before.<BR/><BR/><B>Foot Eater</B> - It's not just 10,000 years, apparently humans have been in their current form for 120,000 years. We're still hard-wired for the stone-age. My guess is that in our past, when just staying alive was important, then delay of gratification wasn't as necessary. It's like on Who Wants To Be A Millionaire - if you don't know the answer, there's no point in saving up your life-lines for later, as there probably won't be a later.<BR/><BR/>However, I think the real reason is that in our everyday lives we just don't visualise the long term goal strongly and clearly enough. When we do, it's much easier to delay the gratification until then.<BR/><BR/><B>Naomi</B> - if you've read every post, I don't know whether to be thankful, or worried...<BR/><BR/>Seriously though, you make the point well. We understand about using rewards to create apropriate behaviour in our children, but somehow forget that the same principles apply to us.<BR/><BR/><B>Stella</B> - I thought it was a shame you deleted your blog. You don't have to post all the time. I think it'sfine if you just put something up occassionally, when you feel you have something you want to say.<BR/><BR/><B>Tara Marie</B> - thank you. I hope the next 100 are worth the wait :)Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142480830597902652006-03-16T03:47:00.000+00:002006-03-16T03:47:00.000+00:00Happy 100th......I look forward to the next 100 [s...Happy 100th......I look forward to the next 100 [see that is my reward!]<BR/><BR/>Peace, TMAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12628921554027431376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142461710770103082006-03-15T22:28:00.000+00:002006-03-15T22:28:00.000+00:00Congratulations on your 100th Kim! Excellent post...Congratulations on your 100th Kim! Excellent post and yes you should reward yourself cos you're worth it.<BR/><BR/>I gave up on my blog as having explored more blogs mine was just embarrassing and very boring. I am full of admiration for anyone who manages to maintain such an interesting/entertaining/thought-provoking blogStellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01636391376867869652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142443232186935172006-03-15T17:20:00.000+00:002006-03-15T17:20:00.000+00:00Excellent post and happy 100th. I think I've read...Excellent post and happy 100th. I think I've read every post ;-)<BR/><BR/>I use lots an dlots of positive reinforcement with my kids even for the little things in life but when it comes to me the rewards are very few. I've been thinking vaguely about ways to rectify this but I think you've just given me a good kick up the bum.Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05347972660723452300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142368337244274862006-03-14T20:32:00.000+00:002006-03-14T20:32:00.000+00:00Excellent post, Kim. I've often wondered why short...Excellent post, Kim. I've often wondered why short-termism seems so hard-wired into human psychology - God knows I'm as afflicted by it as the next person - given that we have such a long period of childhood relative to other species. Only 10,000 years or so have passed since we were hunter-gatherers, so we haven't had time to evolve in any significant physical sense, and we must therefore assume we're still essentially stone-age beings biologically speaking. In which case, why is it that virtually from birth we seem to be drawn to the immediate gratification of need, rather than having an inbuilt tendency to defer instant pleasure in favour of long-range well-being (and thereby an increased chance of reaching sexual maturity, reproducing and propagating the genes)? This isn't a rhetorical question; I really don't know the answer.Foot Eaterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04706459658926034197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142355872706083142006-03-14T17:04:00.000+00:002006-03-14T17:04:00.000+00:00Sexybeauty - Thank you. I enjoyed reading your pos...<B>Sexybeauty</B> - Thank you. I enjoyed reading your post too.<BR/><BR/><B>Binty</B> - If I could figure out a way to make money from it, then I'd write something new every day. <BR/><BR/><B>Fatmammycat, Attila & Rhonda</B> - thank you! I enjoy your company<BR/><BR/><B>Charlie</B> - I look forward to reading it :)Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142346317648995232006-03-14T14:25:00.000+00:002006-03-14T14:25:00.000+00:00I agree with sexybeauty: This is too great a posti...I agree with sexybeauty: This is too great a posting for a few words of comment, so I'm going to blog about it too.<BR/><BR/>I do not believe, however, that you are being unkind to yourself: You in fact have had a wonderful revelation.<BR/><BR/>As the Romans would say, Happy C.Charliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722567671925063706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142341779474224392006-03-14T13:09:00.000+00:002006-03-14T13:09:00.000+00:00Congrats on the milestone, Kim! What a way to cele...Congrats on the milestone, Kim! <BR/><BR/>What a way to celebrate - a very insightful post. It made me think, which is what good writing should do, and your writing always does.<BR/><BR/>I am very glad I stumbled into your world.Rhondahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04456231110149686584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142336475971185972006-03-14T11:41:00.000+00:002006-03-14T11:41:00.000+00:00Happy 100th!From a faithful reader.Happy 100th!<BR/><BR/>From a faithful reader.Attila the Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02158308703617226652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142334562086216522006-03-14T11:09:00.000+00:002006-03-14T11:09:00.000+00:00Congrats on the 100 blog old chap. And a special c...Congrats on the 100 blog old chap. And a special congrats on the new resolve.fatmammycathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12307960277363243051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142333487764519342006-03-14T10:51:00.000+00:002006-03-14T10:51:00.000+00:00After 3 attempts I set myself the goal of reading ...After 3 attempts I set myself the goal of reading this entire post. And I did it! So you must be doing something right, giving me a sense of achievement and all!<BR/><BR/>Happy Centurion blog, by the way!<BR/><BR/>I always read you, y'bugger - my only problem is that you just don't post often enough for me!<BR/><BR/>Sexybeauty... you are actually posting! Bloody 'ell! I'm there...!Binty McShaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06675394718164552966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1142333302884313852006-03-14T10:48:00.000+00:002006-03-14T10:48:00.000+00:00Kim, this is a very thought provoking post, and it...Kim, this is a very thought provoking post, and it's sparked off too long an answer to post here, so will post on my blog. You should be kinder to yourself, Kim, you are an excellent writer.SheBahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01617001408244879648noreply@blogger.com