tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post113217514061983158..comments2024-01-11T18:39:50.665+00:00Comments on Painting With Shadows: Death to BarbieKim Ayreshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-3320405543884789012008-09-23T16:14:00.000+01:002008-09-23T16:14:00.000+01:00Anonymous - thank you for taking the time to comme...Anonymous - thank you for taking the time to comment - if you do so again, please leave a name so I can distinguish you from other anonymous writers :)<BR/><BR/>I have many issues with Barbie, one of which is it pushes and promotes a single idea of beauty - the tall blonde with a skinny waist and gravity defying breasts - which, let's face it, very very few people naturally look like.<BR/><BR/>I have no intention of helping my daughter to feel inadequate because she will never fit that image.<BR/><BR/>I'm not intimidated by any look of any woman - what her face and body look like are far less important than how she wears them.<BR/><BR/>If you are comfortable in your own skin, then I am pleased for you. I would like everyone to feel comfortable with who they areKim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-9995466362653810582008-09-23T04:42:00.000+01:002008-09-23T04:42:00.000+01:00Dude, Barbies are awesome and so are Bratz! My hus...Dude, Barbies are awesome and so are Bratz! My husband jokes that he married a living Barbie because I'm a tall blue-eyed blonde with long legs and I love clothes and makeup. I think a lot of men are intimidated by Barbie because if she were a real woman, they'd be afraid of approaching her for fear she'd laugh in their faces.<BR/>Little girls love fashion and pretending to be big girls. Your daughter obviously loves Barbie, why disappoint her?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1146150415829305312006-04-27T16:06:00.000+01:002006-04-27T16:06:00.000+01:00Hi Layla - thanks for taking the time to comment!Y...Hi Layla - thanks for taking the time to comment!<BR/><BR/>Yes, this is one of those parental decisions that never occur to you until you suddenly find yourself in that situation :)Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1146149721980634112006-04-27T15:55:00.000+01:002006-04-27T15:55:00.000+01:00hi kim,I know its been ages since that barbie stor...hi kim,I know its been ages since that barbie story, but i just read it.that sounds so embarressing!i probably would've taken the barbie and hid it.poppy doesn't like barbie or bratz but she's still only 2!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1140042222110348962006-02-15T22:23:00.000+00:002006-02-15T22:23:00.000+00:00It's been a while and I'm not sure you'll even not...It's been a while and I'm not sure you'll even notice this but .. I'd like to apologise for my comment when you visited my blog after my previous comment here. Sorry.west coasterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09883892844055152009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1134549577367471332005-12-14T08:39:00.000+00:002005-12-14T08:39:00.000+00:00Hello West Coaster - welcome to my ramblings. Woul...Hello West Coaster - welcome to my ramblings. Would you care to expand on what you mean by saying that I was cruel? Are you saying that I'm being cruel to my daughter for not letting her have a Barbie doll, or are you criticising the fact that I didn't accept the doll from the mother and so may have embarrassed her?<BR/><BR/>I am open to criticism and would be interested in knowing what you would have done in that situation. Just blindly telling me I was cruel withut any further explanation isn't particularly helpfulKim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1134515390022783412005-12-13T23:09:00.000+00:002005-12-13T23:09:00.000+00:00I cannot believe that no-one has yet criticised yo...I cannot believe that no-one has yet criticised your behaviour. It struck me as being simply cruel. From my perspective you were being blindly pig-headed.west coasterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09883892844055152009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132842466681534532005-11-24T14:27:00.000+00:002005-11-24T14:27:00.000+00:00Another Rebecca - welcome to my ramblings and than...<B>Another Rebecca</B> - welcome to my ramblings and thank you for taking the time to comment!<BR/><BR/>Last night when I went to pick Meg up from school, I briefly saw K's mum chatting to someone else so said hello as I was striding past. Her return hello didn't seemed strained so I'm hoping that it means the incident is now past..Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132813809830464312005-11-24T06:30:00.000+00:002005-11-24T06:30:00.000+00:00I'm amazed that you were able to stick to your gun...I'm amazed that you were able to stick to your guns like that! I don't have any parenting experience to compare to (and don't have the youth excuse, either) but grew up in a Barbie-free house. Somehow, I don't remember it ever being a big deal; we just didn't have Barbie (and believe me, in the 70's-80's in the place I grew up, it was big). So I'm inclined to think that it is not traumatizing to the other kid's parents or to kids. I imagine it's just one of those things that becomes so normal when you've grown up with it that it feels like your parent is refusing to let you eat all of the Hallween candy in one go; you know you want to but also know it's a bad idea. And that's what your parents are for: steering away from bad ideas.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132762602496937682005-11-23T16:16:00.000+00:002005-11-23T16:16:00.000+00:00Aha! Now it all makes sense! Sorry about that - I ...Aha! Now it all makes sense! Sorry about that - I didn't make the connection.Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132762315050894822005-11-23T16:11:00.000+00:002005-11-23T16:11:00.000+00:00Kim, I am at: http://alwayschaosaroundhere.blogspo...Kim, I am at: http://alwayschaosaroundhere.blogspot.com/<BR/><BR/>You have left me a comment that's how I came to you.<BR/><BR/>Not sure why my link on my profile isn't working, I will check it out and try to correct it.<BR/><BR/>Thanks<BR/><BR/>RebeccaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132748208376940882005-11-23T12:16:00.000+00:002005-11-23T12:16:00.000+00:00Thank you for taking the time to comment, Rebecca,...Thank you for taking the time to comment, Rebecca, and welcome to my ramblings. <BR/><BR/>It is very reassuring to find that we're not the only people in the world who think that Barbie is not the kind of standard of beauty we want to hold up to our children. <BR/><BR/>BTW, I went to look at your blog, but although it mentions one on your profile, the link didn't go anywhere. If you don't mind me asking, what is your blog address?Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132747656177007012005-11-23T12:07:00.000+00:002005-11-23T12:07:00.000+00:00When my oldest daughter was young there were plent...When my oldest daughter was young there were plenty of Barbies in our house. It wasn't until she began comparing her self to the dolls that I began to realize just how freakishly odd their shape was, and how they affected my child. Then I began noticing that all their faces were basically the same, no matter what ethinicity they were. Reality is that all people are not the same, and I have yet to know someone that looks like a Barbie.<BR/><BR/>There are NO Barbies in our home. <BR/><BR/>I do not think that parent's who allow Barbies are all evil, yet I wonder what they may unsuspectingly be teaching their daughter's about beauty. <BR/><BR/>Other media influences are all around us, so it is not as if we can completely exclude our children from the reality that "beauty" at least in the eyes of the media, is rather superficial and shallow, based merely on how physically pleasing a person is.<BR/><BR/>Ironic because there are more people in this world that do not fit this so-called ideal image than there are that do. <BR/><BR/>Great response to the mom about Barbie!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132738930267795912005-11-23T09:42:00.000+00:002005-11-23T09:42:00.000+00:00Hi Anne - welcome to my ramblings.Yes, the fixed g...Hi Anne - welcome to my ramblings.<BR/><BR/>Yes, the fixed grin is always a bit of a giveaway!Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132735261159790632005-11-23T08:41:00.000+00:002005-11-23T08:41:00.000+00:00Good for you - evil barbie.I like the fact that th...Good for you - evil barbie.<BR/>I like the fact that the woman kept on smiling....Miss Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08048222718923781370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132647681804110862005-11-22T08:21:00.000+00:002005-11-22T08:21:00.000+00:00Bratz are not much better, it's true. In fact, the...Bratz are not much better, it's true. In fact, the school has a book fair at the moment and we've given Meg some money to buy a book with the strict instructions that she's not to get anything with Barbie or Bratz in it. I don't hold out too much hope to be honest.Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132614916562275502005-11-21T23:15:00.000+00:002005-11-21T23:15:00.000+00:00I think that it's really cool that you stood up fo...I think that it's really cool that you stood up for your principles on this one, Kim. A neighbor gave my daughters some of those "Bratz" dolls on their last birthday and they are really kind of freaky. I don't know what's worse...freaky dolls or proportionatly unrealistic dolls. Thankfully they don't play with them much and I think my partner and I do a pretty good job of keeping them grounded in reality at home, too.Kim & Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12383815215148590331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132607078529215082005-11-21T21:04:00.000+00:002005-11-21T21:04:00.000+00:00Mauzy - I think it's probably seen more as a weird...<B>Mauzy</B> - I think it's probably seen more as a weirdo thing ;)<BR/><BR/><B>Lord Lessismore</B> - it's good to hear from someone else who's been through the same thing. My older stepdaughters (now aged 19 and 22) were brought up in a Barbie free zone, and like yours became quite damning of the "plastic perfection". However, I'm quite pleased about it as I dare say they could just as easily have had a backlash and decided for ever more to dress in pink.<BR/><BR/>But no, it's not always difficult being a Dad (he writes with his wife looking over his shoulder...)<BR/><BR/><B>Tara Marie</B> - aha! So my true purpose in life is to keep you entertained for a few minutes each week, via my blog. Suddenly it all makes sense... ;)Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132599113013796642005-11-21T18:51:00.000+00:002005-11-21T18:51:00.000+00:00LOL!!! We don't 'do' Barbie at our house either......LOL!!! We don't 'do' Barbie at our house either....and with three daughters that was a lot of returning gifts for a suitable replacement.<BR/><BR/>Too fun Kim,,,,,see, I believe in destiny and that is WHY you were to one to pick up Meg so you got to share the events with us is such a delightful way!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12628921554027431376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132595429893855912005-11-21T17:50:00.000+00:002005-11-21T17:50:00.000+00:00she probably thinks its a "down syndrome" thing......she probably thinks its a "down syndrome" thing... ;)<BR/><BR/>I personally liked Ken better.Jan Steck Huffmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02850626523693173636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132590240228837622005-11-21T16:24:00.000+00:002005-11-21T16:24:00.000+00:00Well, admitting that you have a problem is the fir...Well, admitting that you have a problem is the first step Brian. Thank you for joining the group...Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132575611322389912005-11-21T12:20:00.000+00:002005-11-21T12:20:00.000+00:00Hello, my name is Brian and my daughter Elli is a ...Hello, my name is Brian and my daughter Elli is a Barbieholic. She has been a user since age 3 and is up to one, sometimes two per month. Around holidays and birthdays she seems to sink deeper into the deep black hole, sometimes receiving 3-5 at a time, mostly from her friends.<BR/><BR/>It may not look like it, but I agree with you. Even though she enjoys playing with her Barbie’s my wife and I do a pretty good job at keeping things real at home. <BR/><BR/>K and her mom sound like wonderful people. Hopefully Meg will have more play dates that are Barbie Free.<BR/><BR/>Cheers,<BR/>BBStronghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15795381642029132764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132487810508642042005-11-20T11:56:00.000+00:002005-11-20T11:56:00.000+00:00Kats & Stella - I don't think it was bravery so mu...<B>Kats & Stella</B> - I don't think it was bravery so much as blind panic. At the heart of it I just knew that if we accepted the Barbie then the hassle we'd have with Meg for the next few years could be huge.<BR/><BR/><B>Asher</B> - my fear is not so much that she feels she's been insulted, but that she feels embarrassed. If she's insulted, then that's her problem as an insult was not intended. But if I was in her place, embarrassment would be my overwhelming feeling, and I'd hate to think she might start avoiding us because of it. That would be to my daughter's detriment.<BR/><BR/><B>Siddharth</B> - this is where your youth betrays you - any parent would be able to tell you that there is no way you would be able to talk a 7 year old daughter out of a doll once she's accepted it. The only way that we've been able to avoid it is by never starting. Think of it like a drug or addiction - it's much easier to cope with if you never begin.<BR/><BR/><B>Daxohol</B> - the speed with which the whole encounter was over was scary. It's one of those moments where you're left standing on the pavement thinking "what just happened?"Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132459699806522742005-11-20T04:08:00.000+00:002005-11-20T04:08:00.000+00:00I agree with Ash...It's unfotunate you didn't get ...I agree with Ash...<BR/>It's unfotunate you didn't get a chance to clarify that it wasn't a personal slight :( Moments like that are fast and difficult to navigate!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15322620.post-1132457227637202662005-11-20T03:27:00.000+00:002005-11-20T03:27:00.000+00:00what u did was cool kim.i mean u refused 2 indulge...what u did was cool kim.i mean u refused 2 indulge in a school of thought that thinks 36-24-36 defines what a woman should be.barbie represents a stereotype and u did the right thing.but considering ur daughter had bonded so well with that family maybe u should have taken the barbie and then told ur kid y barbie dolls stink.Siddharthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04362492046378241845noreply@blogger.com